如何让异地恋像本地恋一样 ~ How to make a LDR more natural ~

I know I have completely forgotten about the 30 day blog challenge, and I am so sorry. I’ve been super busy watching the Winter Olympics! >.< And to be honest, it was getting a little.. boring, so I’ve decided to change the name to “10 day blog challenge!” haha.

Over to something else, you all know that I am in a LDR (Long distance relationship), I’m living in Norway and my man is living in Scotland, not too bad, as we only got 1 hour time difference. The only problem with the time difference is that I normally forget about the Norway time, and I follow his time, which is 1 hour behind Norway. So at night-time I follow his time and I forget to go to bed, which makes me dead tired the next day when I’m supposed to get up at 6:15 am…But that’s my own fault for not even thinking about that 😛

I know that quite a few of my readers are also in a LDR, so I thought that I could tell you guys what ChenChen and I do to make the relationship as natural as possible. This is what my day looks like when it comes to talking to ChenChen;

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♥ I get up and always text him on wechat, even though he is sleeping, I know that he will appreciate the message when he reads it, as we don’t have much time to talk during the day because I am at work and he’s in class.

♥ He always give me a message when he gets up, and I read it during my break as I start work before he get up – Lucky guy, he’s classes always start really late..

♥ During my lunch break I always text him, though I know that he is not able to reply – It’s just that little extra to make his day a little better ~ At least I hope it makes it a little better after sitting in class all day! haha.

♥ I get off work at either 3:30 pm or 5 pm, so we normally finish class and work at the same time – unless he’s got project meetings after class. We then normally go home, prepare dinner / my lazy man order food, and skype while I cook and he’s waiting for his food.

Once we got the food ready, we normally skype while we eat at the same time so it’s almost like we are eating together – of course it’s not the same and it seems a little weird, but it really makes a difference, and to me it’s the best time of the day 🙂 We talk and eat, just like we were eating together – a little cheesy, and a little weird, but it’s super romantic >.< haha

After eating he have to study, so he just keep his skype on and let me watch him like it would be if we were together. And the most important thing that he tells me every time “Don’t talk to me when I study, I can not focus when you talk to me, and sing and do all these weird things, just do what you want to do but please don’t disturb me” haha, at least he’s honest 😀

♥ After hours of studying, and me forgetting the time, he is still not done with studying and suddenly he opens his mouth and goes “Go to sleep babe!” And by that time it is already 12 am, and I will only get 6 hours of sleep, which will kill me as I work in a kindergarten and need a lot of energy haha. So yeah, when I realize that I should have gone to bed an hour earlier we eventually hang up on skype, and send each other a goodnight message. This is something that everyone could do even if the time difference is completely opposite – You could send your love a good morning message when he/she is getting up and your going to bed, just to make your love’s morning better 🙂 As I said earlier, it’s the small things that matters 🙂

♥ During the weekend we skype quite a bit, and it is almost like a normal weekday, he normally have to study and I normally HAVE TO go shopping.. >.< or go to the gym haha. And at night-time when your with your love it’s quite nice to watch a movie right? Well, who said that you can not watch movies or TV shows together even if you are in a LDR? ChenChen and I watch 我是歌手 together every Saturday. It might seem weird and a little complicated, but really it is very simple!
ChenChen and I normally watch 我是歌手 on youtube, so what we do is that we Video chat/skype, and then open youtube, and then *drumrolls* we press play at the same time.. That way we both watch the same thing, and we can see each other at the same time – It is really nice ~ If you don’t want to you use Skype, you could also use Google+, and one of you guys could play the movie or TV show and then turn on “screen sharing.” The only negative thing about Google+ is that it is blocked in Mainland China, so if your better half is living in Mainland China, it it’s pretty difficult to get it working, unless he or she got a VPN 🙂

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These are just some of the things ChenChen and I do everyday to make our LDR seem more natural, of course we can not Skype each other every minute, but time that we have together on Skype is really nice. As ChenChen said “Skype has really made this relationship easier, of course it would still be a good relationship, but what we manage to do with Skype, such as eat dinner at the same time, and watch movies together really makes it seem a lot more like we are together, and it also builds up that trust that is one of the most challenging aspects of a LDR”
Anyone could do this even if the time difference is different, lunch/dinner together, dinner/breakfast – anything could work. What matters is those small daily life things that makes it more natural 🙂

♥ Anyone else who use Skype to make a LDR more natural?

nameee

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30 day blog challenge ~ Day 9

Guys, I have to admit I feel so bad because I’m starting to realize how boring this blog challenge is, and I feel really bad about not writing about anything else, but I hope you guys can understand me. I have a million things on my mind, which I talked about not too long ago, if you haven’t read it yet – then you can read it here.

Here is the question for day 9 ~

♥  9. Your last kiss?

Haha, this one is just too boring, it’s pretty obvious that my last kiss was with Chenchen, my amazing 老公 🙂

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30 day blog challenge ~ Day 7 & 8

I just have to admit that I totally forgot about the blog challenge yesterday, so sorry! But I will answer two questions now 🙂

♥  7. Who is your favorite musician and why?
Easy, most of you guys already know this! 羽泉 a music group from Mainland China  ~ I have written a blog post about them before, you can read more about it here! The reason why I love 羽泉 is simply because their music is amazing,  and their songs & lyrics are really nice 🙂 Their music has made me laugh, cry and smile, and it has made ChenChen sick of them.. haha 😀

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♥  8. What can you not leave the house without?
For the people who know me well, can answer this for me – My handbag! Now, this is because what’s in my bag is super important 😀 In my bag, you can find my wallet, keys, iPad, chewing gum, a little bit of makeup, my sunglasses and most importantly my phone! My phone has become my new best friend ever since I moved back from China. The reason why my phone is so important to me is because it’s how ChenChen and I communicate everyday, during my lunch break 😛 Whoever invented the phone is my Lord! haha. No, I’m not that addicted, to my phone BUT I’m so thankful that we can use it to communicate to each other ~

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And of course my phone which is my camera, iPhone 5s 😀 

What can you not leave the house without?

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30 day blog challenge ~ Day 6 – 我爱你

♥  6. Your favorite person and why?

I think the answer to this question is quite obvious 😛 Anyone want to guess?.. Yes if you guessed ChenChen, then your right! Congrats! haha.
There are so many reasons why he is my favorite person, I don’t want this to be a cheesy love post about how much I love him. Let me tell you guys this – I don’t love him just because he is my 老公, he is my bestfriend! He is the one person who understands me, and can read my mind and body language like no one else. He supports me everyday and make sure that he always give me a compliment just to make my day much better! Not many people can make my day the way he can. He is my favorite person – He is funny, romantic and a little bit silly, AND he is super handsome! 😀 But to me that’s what makes me like him so much. This ended up as a super cheesy post, I knew that would happen >.< haha. These are just some of the reasons why though 😛 There are many more, but I don’t want to write an essay..

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Who is your favorite person?

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30 day blog challenge ~ Day 5

Happy saturday you guys! How’s your weekend going?
Time to answer another questions ~ Here we go, day 5!

♥  5. Favorite movies you never get sick of watching

1. Love Actually – This is the best movie ever made, I have watched it so many times that I know the whole movie by heart. In my opinion it is the sweetest and most romantic movie ever made, even ChenChen like this movie! And trust me, the fact that he even watched the movie is amazing, he never want to watch romantic movies with me.. haha

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2. Night at the museum 1&2 – I don’t really like these kind of movies, but these two movies are the first movies that ChenChen and I watched together, and ever since that we have watched it many many times.

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3. Cold war / 寒戰 – One of the best Chinese movies ever made, I love action movies like that, and the fact that it is made in Hong Kong makes it way better! And 郭富城 / Aaron Kwok makes the movie a lot better! Eye candy! haha.

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4. 中国合伙人 – If you can understand quite a bit of Chinese then you definitely got to watch this movie and if not watch the movie with english subtitles! It is absolutely hilarious and cute. I watched it with my Chinese class once it was released, and the same day I made ChenChen download it and watch it with me again! I love it.

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What’s your favorite movie? 😀

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30 day blog challenge ~ Day 4

Happy Valentines everyone! hope you guys have had a great day with or without someone special!
ChenChen and I have had a “Skype Date” we ate dinner at the same time, watched a movie together – We played it at the same time.. It could not have been more perfect 🙂 And I opened the gift that he gave me last time I was in Glasgow  🙂

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I did not forget about the Blog Challenge, it will just be a late answer, as it is already February 15th in Norway.

♥  4. What do you wear to bed?

Ok, this question is a little strange, but I guess I will just give you guys a boring answer as I only wear ChenChen’s t-shirt and sweat pants 😛 Most comfortable thing to wear when I sleep!

Over to something completely different ~
I’ve been given a Versatile Blog Award, which is pretty much an award one blogger to another, to show that they love reading what they write about 🙂

Below are the rules of the award :

  1. Display the logo in a post

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♥  2. Link to the person who nominated you

I was given this award by the girl behind the blog “AMWF couple”. She is a British girl dating a Guy from Hong Kong and she writes amazing posts about topics such as How she met her boyfriend, and about her Trip to Hong Kong, which really makes me miss Asia 😦

♥  3. Write seven (7) things about yourself

  • I’m from Norway.
  • I moved to Beijing, China as a teenager.
  • I studied Chinese for 1 year.
  • I am working in a kindergarten.
  • I’m in the movie Karate Kid as a “blonde girl in the background.”
  • I miss China.
  • I’ve been told that I look; American, French, German, Dutch, Swedish – But no one guess that I’m Norwegian.

4. Nominate 15 other bloggers and inform them of their nomination: 10 for now, I will add 5 more tomorrow >.<

30 day blog challenge ~ Day 3

 ♥  3. If you could wish for only 3 things to come true, what would you wish for?

Wow, that’s a hard question, especially now that I wish that everything could come true and make things more simple for me! >.<

♥ As of now my biggest wish is that ChenChen and I can be together now, next week, next month, next year, and that he can find a job in Norway, so that I can study and he can work and we can still stay together. That is my Number 1 wish right now, and I’m pretty sure it will be my Number 1 wish until it happens 😀 *fingers crossed it will happen soon* If he can’t get a job in Norway I will still do EVERYTHING to be able to be with him no matter where he might work 🙂

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♥ My second wish is that I could be somewhere with my family and ChenChen’s family all together at the same time. Not because I want them to meet (they haven’t met yet), but it would be so nice 😀 I know for a fact that Chenchen would love that, and so would I 🙂 I guess one of the bad things about “growing up” is that you have to make decisions.. I’ll give u an example – This summer my parents and younger siblings are going to Greece for a holiday, I’ve always wanted to go to Greece. And then there’s ChenChen and his family who I have not seen since last summer. My parents were here for xmas, and they will come to Norway for a few days in a month or two, and I can talk to them everyday as there are no language problems. haha. I know that ChenChen’s family miss us a lot and they ask us everyday when we can go back to visit them. So this summer I have decided to stay with ChenChen and go to China to visit my Chinese family. Of course I would love to stay with my family as well, but I guess this is just one of the decisions you got to make 🙂

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 Third and last, I wish I could have all my friends here, like in Beijing, having friends from all around the world is quite “complicated” sometimes, but somehow we always make it work. And I am so thankful for having the friends that I have. I just wish that I could have them here with me. My 3 girls – Emma, Mariana, Tina and Amanda, they mean the world to me. I haven’t seen Mariana and Tina in 2-3 years and yet we have the most amazing friendship. This summer I will also get a chance to meet Emma and Amanda again so that’s also one of the reasons why I want to go to China this summer, we have a lot of friends there that we want to be with 🙂

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What would you wish for?~ 

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