儿子

So remember when I said that I had another blog post ready for you guys?
Well, here it is! A little later than I planned, because there is no WIFI in ChenChen’s new apartment, but now that I am back in Norway I can finally post it..

So, I was in Scotland visiting my man for 3 weeks, which was obviously amazing. At the time that I was there he’s parents wanted to skype with us a lot, so they could see us together, and talk to me – they don’t video chat with me when I’m in Norway, because I we wouldn’t be able to communicate as my Chinese is not that good and they don’t speak English. As there is a time difference between UK and China, we would normally skype them in the morning, their evening, and of course that is really nice, it’s good talking to them, and seeing CC happy when I talk to them in Chinese. There is one thing that I always notice when we skype them though, and don’t get me wrong they are very sweet, and I love talking to them when I’m with CC. For those of you who are dating Chinese guys, even Asian guys maybe, you will know what I talk about when I say “Son, be careful” or “Son, are you eating enough, are you eating healthy?”
Sound a lot like a Chinese mum right? haha. And yes, that is very cute, it’s sweet that they care so much about their kids, even though they are not exactly kids anymore.

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I haven’t really noticed it before, how often she says “Son” before every question and how everytime she says “Son” the sentence continue with a question about him eating enough, or him wearing enough clothes outside. To me, it’s not a big problem, it is not bothering me either, but it made me think about the relationship between Chinese parents and their kids, especially their son(s), as they are the ones that are supposed to “support the family” after he get a job.

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I’ve always known that they really care about what he is doing, how he is doing certain things and they always want an update. I don’t think CC has even thought about it before, the fact that they always watch out for him like he is 5 years old. It just really hit me while we were skyping them while I was there, and then I started thinking about my relationship with my parents – yes of course I skype my parents, and they ask me about different things like they should as parents. But they don’t ask me if I wear enough clothes, or if I have remembered to drink enough hot water during the day.

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I am not trying to make any sort of statement with this blog post, and I have to admit that I have been kind of affected by them and I do realize that I sometimes ask CC to wear enough clothes if it is cold outside, and I do ask him if he has eaten dinner etc. Maybe I am becoming like one of the Chinese mums? haha. In my defense, I just care about him – and I guess that’s the same excuse he’s mum would use if I ask her about why she always say “Son…..”

Once again, I respect his parents, and their traditions, and just like them I want what’s best for my man, ChenChen 🙂

As CC is an only child – I wonder, would they be asking their daughter the same thing as they always ask CC? And, will they continue this after CC and I get married?! haha. I mean of course they can, but I can also take care of him, and he can definitely take care of himself! haha

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4 thoughts on “儿子

  1. Son is still better than ‘Little treasure’ Momzilla uses 😀 of course she does that only when she whatsapps with him and not in public, because I think he would die if she had done that 😀 and just to tell you in my family Sing has a sister, but for her is just normal asking how are you, do you need some money… to Sing it’s ‘did you eat? don’t care about the money, eat more, eat better if you need we send you’ ‘i checked the weather, it will be cold in your place, wear a jacket’ etc.
    I have to agree with you – I know their parents care a lot, that’s just the way they are… but sometimes I wish they treat my husband as a grown up man, especially I’m most of the time there to care about him, so it’s little bit like a slap to me, that I don’t care enough >.<!

    1. haha, “Little treasure” .. well, who knows? My MIL might be saying that to ChenChen also 😛
      so it is the way I thought it is then? It is different between boys and girls ? At least in some families maybe haha.

      I’m glad I’m not the only one who feel that way though, like of course it’s good they care and I respect that – but he’s a grown man! I think he knows when to eat, or when to wear a jacket etc.. haha.

  2. Uh huh, same with daughters. ‘Are you eating enough.’ ‘You look so pale.’ ‘Are you wearing a sweater’ (if it’s cold). It’s just parents being parents.

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